Packaging for libcufile

[mikaylagawarecki]

pytorch/pytorch#130633 (relanded as pytorch/pytorch#133489) depends on CUDA::cufile

For pull/ builds, this works fine as libcufile.so.* is part of the CUDA Toolkit on the versions we test (11.8/12.1/12.4)

However manywheel binary builds are unable to find libcufile.so.0. Per discussion with @atalman, this is because it is not available in any of the pypi packages that we depend on for cuda lib*.so.* files

To unblock I will add a USE_CUFILE flag to disable, but filing this issue to track the issue with packaging

@atalman @malfet @ptrblck @nWEIdia @albanD